just girly things: pretending to be on the phone when you walk by a large group of men because there’s a chance they’ll harass you <333
ijs, for anyone who is running or a part of an org and wondering why your numbers and/or retention is so low: look around the room. who is not there? consider what you’re doing to discourage people from coming.
So here I was, 24, clumsily dating women. I didn’t have any gay friends, and I had no clue where to meet women. I was lonely a lot. I remember the lesbian bar across town I had the courage to visit once, it was the only one around. It was seedy with moldy carpeting and poker machines lining the back wall. All the women in there looked like they had just come out of jail (and not the Orange Is The New Black kind). I just wanted a woman who smelled nice and had the majority of her teeth intact.
When I did have the fortune of meeting somebody, I was lying to my parents about where I was going, and who I was seeing. I felt like a guilty child most of the time, it was humiliating.
I eventually did come out to a handful of friends. Most were supportive. The one thing they couldn’t understand was why an adult like myself wouldn’t just “move the hell out and tell them like it is!”
I tried to explain that it was different for me, for my culture. Loyalty to the family was everything, and so was their reputation. More than hurting myself, I was afraid I would disgrace my family, that no one would invite them to weddings or gatherings, and that they would be shunned all because of my selfishness of wanting to be free.
My American friends would argue that there are laws in this country, that I could simply walk out the door with no repercussions, and they wouldn’t be able to hurt me. I would tell them there was no law that could ever protect against them not loving me anymore."
This is what the cast of a Stonewall movie should look like, not what’s being cast.
These are just a few of the beautiful, incredible, unbelievably brave people who made our movement possible. Pay respect to the people who were involved in the Stonewall Riots by boycotting this planned whitewashed film about cis gay men and drag queens because it’s false and disrespectful to the trans women of color and the other extremely important marginalized groups that sparked the movement we have and benefit from today. Don’t allow this movie to further perpetuate the whitewashing of history and lies about who really was fighting in the Stonewall Riots.
Anonymous asked: But if Misandry isn't real... why do girls sometimes hurt my feelings? D:
"I think the average guy thinks they’re pro-woman, just because they think they’re a nice guy and someone has told them that they’re awesome. But the truth is far from it. Unless you are actively, consciously working against the gravitational pull of the culture, you will predictably, thematically, create these sort of fucked-up representations."
Junot Diaz (via luciaferr)